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You know, one of the biggest mistakes I see people making in their businesses… is the MASSIVELY wrapped up emotion they have with whatever they are doing. And frankly, I don’t think many people really understand just how much this is NEGATIVELY impacting their business… and impacting the amount of money they can earn in life.
So I decided to shoot this video for you today, and TEACH YOU how to ‘Defuse’ the emotion from business, and literally just become the type of person that can create far more results, with less stress or anxiety, and come across as more professional to their network in the mean time.
Here’s the video…
Leave me your comment when you’re done watching, cause I’d love to know what you think! And we’ll speak more soon…
Yours In Mastery,
Jonathan Budd
You just inspired me to start a notebook page called “Raising my Professionalism”
It will keep me motivated to take the extra second to remember to be more professional and keep my emotions out of it.
I will keep this by my laptop and every time I handle something more or less professionally, i’ll note it and see what I can learn from it (see if I can also identify patterns).
Thanks Jonathan – never even thought about all this – so this was very helpful!
Right on. We must let it go. Negative emotion attracts negative energy. When we can be proactive and not defensive, our positive energy attracts.
So, so true! How easily and quickly we forget this and how sneaky our emotions can be. What a great reminder
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Valuable insight; …profound…thank you so much. A young man recently jumped to his death from the 19th floor—and landed right aside my lanai…… .because we’re all connected….it affected me immensely…..lesson was…to process immediately and completely—-as to allow the fresh new moments to come forth…unalterated……Emotions are a fact of life….and your message is right on!
That is so awesome, Jonathan, but when it comes to business do we need to express our emotions?
I am a problem solver, always helping others, when they do not like what I have I turn them around but going inward to see what is causing this frustration. I agree that usually it gives them something to think about and when they do not get the response they thought, they take another look lol blessings
Profound message. It is great to be hearing ideas like this from someone in my industry. I can do my Sufi dances of Universal Peace, I can listen to Eckhart Tolle and Ophrah but it is actually more relevant to hear these truths in the context of my direct sales business.
I got to your website originally from your friend, Hans Zech in Bozeman, Montana. We live in Bozeman ,MT Amazing place. I knew there were things for me to learn from him and then subsequently from you.
My question to you and I am truly interested in the answer, “What kind of water do you drink?
Hi Jonathan,
Great message for those who are new to MLM. This business is definitely NOT for everyone and, if not, just politely tell the person that it is not, then MOVE ON. The reason we are in your class is to learn how to ATTRACT people who want to be in this type of business and, of course, we will learn from you how to become as successfl as YOU in this type of business. I learned a long time ago that one must be able to detach oneself from negativity and not take negative comments or reactions personally. As always, thank you for your advice.
I’ve said this before, you are a very wise young man.
Vera
Hi Jonathan: You are 100% Correct!. That philosophy would make all of our lives so much easier and more enjoyable.
However it will take introspection, focus, patience, and a powerful desire to control our emotional responses in such a manner. Pausing a second or two to ask ourselves those 4 important questions and then taking the actions or responses you suggested could do the trick, but it will take true desire, based on the logic of it all AND practice, practice, practice. Thanks for your truly insightful comments. Best regards. Richard Nalick
Hi JB,
I enjoy your video’s and I am looking forward to more information as the days go by. I am learning alot about business just by following you.
Successfully Yours,
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Hi J.B.,
I was taught early on that we buy things with emotion and justify with logic (as you already know). So I’m always AWARE of emotions and making sure that they don’t get in the way as to cloud my judgment, etc.
However, unfortunately, most people are in bondage with their worthless emotions and take everything personal then wonder why their life SUCKS! We’ve all been there and it’s a constant work in progress. We all must learn (as you have) to direct our thoughts with our INTELLECT!
As the late great godfather of self development (Charles F. Haanel) said, “the will guided by the intellect gains the victory”. In addition, it’s like you said in an earlier video, Jonathan, it’s all about and boils down to AWARENESS!
Peace out!
JC
P.S. Why don’t they teach us this stuff in school???
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YES indeed this issue is very important. The bottom line is, as i have recently realized, that MLM business after all is a people-to-people relations business and as we move along we meet different people with diverse educational, religious, political, cultural, intellectual, etc. background. Hence, there will be some form of reactions (both positive and negative) on what other people say or do. This is a fact that we have to learn to accept, not only in MLM, but in life itself (MLM community seems to be like the whole world in a nutshell.)
I myself react emotionally when an upline or downline or company staff does or says things that in my opinion (based on my personal education, cultural, intellectual, etc. background) is not appropriate. I sometimes get hurt and offended (or get even angry). I am usually confrontational (say what i want and correct things). We usually have the following options:
1. At the peak of our emotional storm we just blurt out what we feel. The problem here is sometimes we say things that we may regret later.
2. We just keep quiet and just let things slip by hoping that same circumstance would not happen again…but…what if this person does it again…..and again….and again? How long could we zip our lips? Should we not help this person correct himself, specially if everyone in the community is already backbiting on this persons bad manners (or thinking)?
The weakness of this approach (in my experience) is the problem might temporarily cool down but if no ample correction is made (as in any situation), the problem grows and worsen–just like a ball that rolls down from a mountain snow, it grows bigger and bigger–and comes to a point that it is so difficult to correct. I remember a Chinese philosopher who says: “An organization just like a house gathers dust, hence, it needs some constant cleaning to keep if fresh and functioning well.”
In MLM, we are trained to FIGO (forget it and go on) so the organization stays intact. However, somehow shouldn’t there must be a system that will keep the motor clean and run well (like a preventive maintenance)?
3.At the peak of emotions, people often, if not always, do not think objectively (or shall we say not thinking clearly). This is the moment that we should guard ourselves with what we say. If we decide to say something in reaction, count 1 to 1,000 (or as what my mother say….say Hail Mary three times). Or, maybe just get out of the room first. This will cool us down and think more clearly and be more rational (than emotional). Then evaluate the pros and cons if you will react at this time or let it slip by– and, if you decide to say something at this moment….it will be wise to choose the words (have a script or something). OR, just let it be for the moment, and later on when you are already cool and composed…and have thought things out, you can approach
this person…. (say…..last saturday you said “………….” i was a bit offended but i would like to learn why you said that…maybe i can learn something.) This way we are able to turn something negative to a positive experience…Maybe this person has some point afterall.
4. Maybe we can have some reverse psychology. Avoid and/or limit conversing with this person….IF THIS person is sensitive enough and notices you are avoiding him/her, he/she will be the one to ask you–why?….and this is your chance.
This are some thoughts for the moment. IT is so good you brought it up. You are so right that this issue is oftentimes, if not always, taken forgranted…….YET IF LEFT UNRESOLVED….it will COST a LOT….it will affect the organization and, of course. the bottom line of the Inome Statement.
To your Leadership,
Beth
HI Jonathan
Thankyou so much for this valuable information. Sometime
we do let our emotions take over and that’s where we make mistakes.We just have to learn to let go.
Thank you
Maria.
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Watching you, Mr. Jonathan Budd, over the past few months I’ve seen, as have we all, your metamorphasis into a man in possession of the highest level of integrity who is passionate in what he does. You are a truly caring individual. I support you as a customer and affiliate. You will have me in your group as long as your passion and positive vibes continue to resonate through our industry.
Thank you for your inspiration and opportunity to be part of something revolutionary.
P.S. Please do not enter politics as you have a better platform for helping people where you are. I would also like information on your charities so I may contribute. You do some really nice things.
This is true JB. Emotion clouds our judgment. In hindsight when I look at some of the bad decisions I made in life, they were fueled by my emotions.
Emotion is also a powerful tool of influence. Since we are all emotional beings, some leaders tend to manipulate this fact when dealing with the masses.
Thank you for addressing this subject.
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Emotional awareness is half the battle, the other half is knowing how to effectively manage those emotions. We all know every human emotion is a healthy one, that each one we experience in life has an extreme on either end of what is socially acceptable, it is our responsibility, both as humans living in the real world and professionals running our business, to embrace but harness those emotions.
Hey Jonathan,
Thank you so much for this very valuable reminder that everything is always coming from within ourselves. After reading A new Earth I became more aware of my negative emotions, but it kind of backfired because instead of difusing them, I was resisting them. I don’t want to feel like this and so I resisted and by the end of the day I was just holding them in.
But then if I thought of these emotions or interactions as evergy, and myslef as a whirlpool, and I let tthem pass through me instead of saying they are good or bad, but as you said, embrace them, and let them go. then I wouldn’t feel so stressed or bad.
Thank you again for this reminder. We are all human and all our emotions are so normal to have, but it is our own awaremness of the why, as you said, and if they are serving us. So cool ! Peace and I love hearing from you.
Joanna
This video is very insightful. No matter how hard we try not be emotional we are human and we slip. Your questions are a great way to get back . It is very complimentary with E Tolle’s book that you recommended about being in the “now”.
Thank you.
Maggie
Hi Jonathan,
As always you are right on.
I do have to add one thing form my own experience. Good emotion is not always good either. It can stand in the way just as much the bad might.
If you know you have a product that can help some one who is in need and you do any thing with in your power to explain it to you friend, but he/she find any and every excuse in the book why they can’t do it. At the end you are exhausted, disappointed and maybe even a little heart broken that they did not allow you to help. You had such good intentions. Why couldn’t they see what you do?!
I learned very quickly not to get personally invested no matter how well I know the person and how badly I would like to help them. It has to be the right place and th right time in there lives.
I had to feel in on my own skin, before I learned that this is true.
The people who read this might have to come to this realization on there own, I hope that when they do, they will remember the following: One, they are not alone.
Two this is life!
Gilli
Leave it behind and go to the next person on your list.
You are right. You can not get emotionally involved no matter how much you want to help. People are ready to see when they are ready. It certainly helps to realize that.
Maggie
Excellent message Jonathan, but the only thing I wonder about, is “excitement” not also an emotion ?
A good emotions should be an advantage, should it not? ….. I do hope it is, because I am excited about the The Pay-Per-Click Mentoring classes that are starting to night at 5.00PM PDT.
Jim
Right to that by brutha!
The past is the past…emotion is now…and WE have full control over our emotions!
Get off your buttocks if you’re reading this and make your day RIGHT NOW!
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Jonathan excellent post. I have been extremely guilty of this and this character flaw, althought human, is disasterous in business and personal matters. I am taking action in fixing this.
thanks
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Dear Jonathan,
I truly enjjoy your teachings. I would love to meet you in person. I am sure it would be an experience of a lifetime.
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Hey Jon, You’ve done it again, my whole world is changing right in front of my eyes. In the last month I could have easily used this technique 6 or more times to quickly defuse a potentially devastating situation. Although nothing devastating occurred,the time lost and emotional”baggage”that incurred in each separate situation, could have been nipped in the “Budd”
When the Mentor speaks the student will appear. To me,that one, nine min. video is potentially worth more than all my assets…combined. Fo-Real
Do you know that the teachings you impart have Biblical origins? Today for example follows the Book of Easter. Queen Easter was a Jewish woman called by God to stop the persecution her people were about to experience. Only Easter was afraid she would be killed if she went before the King. Instead she prayed and fasted, and found trust in God so when she came before the King she was filled with a profound peace. Philippians 4:6: Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. And God’s peace [shall be yours…] (AmP.) Notice, Esther didn’t just run around talking to people about the
trouble she was facing. Her conversation wasn’t just horizontal. It was vertical. She talked to God (and asked others to talk to Him too). She lifted the situation to Him and asked Him for help. When she did, something amazing happened. A heavenly kind of peace came upon her. It was the kind of peace 1 Peter 3:4 refers to as “…the
inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God” (AmP.)
That peace had such a powerful effect on the king that when Esther put on her royal robes and walked into his court, he not only held out to her the golden scepter; he said, “What will you have, Queen Esther? What is
your request? It shall be given you, even to half of the kingdom” (5:4 AmP.) Peace put Esther in charge of the situation! Instead of groveling, she found herself standing in a position of rulership with the king offering to give her half the country. Such a thing was unheard of! In that culture, women were treated as little more than slaves. That was nothing less than supernatural. And it didn’t happen because Esther was somebody special. It happened because she followed God’s instructions. Instead of worrying, she prayed and brought the peace of God on the scene. And that peace is a powerful force!
Hey Jonathan – Right on as usual… Another way to ‘diffuse’ is never to HAVE the emotion in the first place. You spoke really only about “BAD” emotions. But – if we are so motivated by “GOOD” emotions – “Wow, what a fantastic day, what a fantastic opportunity I have, what a fantastic person I am talking to (underneath it all, maybe!) then this can completely crowd out the “BAD” emotions and they won’t even arise! Not always easy, but betwent he two techniques there’s really no excuse for getting upset. What do you think? dp
Making decisions outside of the emotion invoked by the situation. For what it is worth, I think our Higher Power, whom I call God, makes decisions this way. Good job as usual, Jonathan